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    Indeed it does! :(
    Il y a 6 ans
    0pt
    I don't think it sounds weird. I feel the same way sometimes. It seems like the older you get the more people put the hobby aside or at least aren't as open about it. That kind of limits friends and discussions with new people sadly.
    Il y a 6 ans
    0pt
    Pulled an Eva line on me! Nice! I want that shirt btw. Maybe when I start feeling like running away I should start saying that like Shinji. I should of done it yesterday, before I crawled back into my shell, but thats a whole other story. Haha. I am glad many older individuals have spoken up and it helps to know there are a lot of people in the same boat. Now it is just, what do we do? How many people here live around each other and would like to meet individuals that are in the same things as them. There has been a group created for this which I will go make a post in. I would fo been more active yesterday, but I had this KILLER headache. ~_~ I know 27 isn't super old, but around the 25+ mark, you do start to get more estranged by the "normal" adults. I should try to find more people into figure collecting, anime and manga. I am sure LA has an anime club somewhere. If I go to any, Id try to find one in Anaheim.
    Il y a 6 ans
    0pt
    27... old? Yaaaaaah, enjoy your youth as it's all downhill after 30 :P

    In all seriousness you're definitely not alone!

    It's tough having a hobby if none of your friends share and / or understand it and while it's great to have places like MFC it's not the same as having someone next to you who enjoys the same hobby. And age does become a factor because general society doesn't always look favorably at people who collect "children's" toys and comics when they're supposed to be "adults".

    I've had more than one experience where someone who didn't know about some of my hobbies get more than a little cold when I bring them over to my place and they pass my figure collection, manga book case, fantasy novel book case and then finally my video game library. I guess it's a shock to some that the guy who was talking passionately about the local sports team and telling funny stories about the office is a guy who reads manga and watches anime too lol.

    Collectors tend to be an introverted lot so it can be tough to break into a group. Many also have formed a shell around themselves because of the previously mentioned way other people around them view them. So it's good to reach out and try to do small talk because you'll eventually find someone that's willing to chat or come out a little from their shell. Someone has to break the ice and it's good that you're trying!

    It depends on what type of store but comic and figure store owners / workers tend to be a good starting point to get to know the local crowd of collectors so maybe chat them up when they're not busy? The bigger stores maybe not so much because they may be too busy but smaller stores definitely. And stores tend to have different events and the like so it might be fun to jump into them as well.

    Good luck! And remember 逃げちゃ駄目だ!
    Il y a 6 ans
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    Leosach Born this way
    Ok late comment but I want to write it too LOL ok I'm not a shy person, And I do have a lot of friends but NONE of them likes Animes or manga etc although they like my colection and admire XD... I'm 28 years old and I do understand how you feel... never had someone to talk too about my hobby or a new anime etc... that changed 1 year ago when I Met an online group of Brazilians collectors on Facebook! ^^ Aaand we become friends in real life too, everyone travels to visit the other... one of my friends got married and a lot of members went (travelled) to her wedding (I coudn't T_T) and it's so cool... I love them they are not just "online" you see? so that's a start! and btw you're not old! I'm not!
    Il y a 6 ans
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    I'm late reading this blog, but I wanted to comment, too, because I really relate. I am 31, married with kids, and I don't really have anyone in real life to relate to either. I'm fortunate that my best friend likes some anime, but she isn't as into it as I am, and she has no interest in figures. My husband is only a casual anime watcher and is very tired of my figure collecting. I'm also a shy person, so I know it's hard to start a conversation. You are definitely not alone in these feelings. Thank you so much for writing this blog!
    Il y a 6 ans
    0pt
    Man so many comments! Thanks to everyone! I read them all! I know age shouldn't matter and it seemed to upset a couple of you. Sorry I brought it up, but understand its hard for me not to when people are asking me things like "Shouldn't you try new things?" or "Maybe you should just give it up", because you are an "adult". Figures, anime manga I really only have a handful of people to talk about things with. I still get asked for my ID in Vegas and when I buy alcohol/alcohol related products so I still look young. I have been under many stresses lately and sometimes it just gets increasingly hard to smile. I have been unemployed for 7 months and all the figures are buy are from money I saved from my last job, but now its out. I have pre ordered all I can. So, now I am just wondering what can I do who can I talk to to keep me smiling while I continue my search for employment. Man, I really sound like a complete baby haha. ^^; (sigh) I am glad I made this post and happy to hear I am not the only one and to even get some support. Being scolded is ok too. I wasn't going to drop figure collecting, anime, manga or my love for Japanese culture. I have been in it for such a long time and it has shaped the me today and I love it. I have been trying to study my Japanese lately, so whenever I take a trip to Japan within my life I can get around. I have never been asked to a party to be honest. I DO go to many conventions though. I have been to Ushi con in Texas when I lived there and it still existed(Even though I think it returned) I have gone to Sakura con and PAX in Seattle, WA for a couple of years when I could. Last year, I attended AX even though with no job atm it might be my last attendance this year. I have been to E3 a few times as well, but that isn't really a place to nerd out to people. Its pretty professional. It is indeed true that people can be prejudice on how much money is being spent and where. I couldn't understand spending $200 on a pair of jeans or a shirt, but if that person buying it understands and accepts it then I am not one to talk. Making a club would be fun for all of us that don't have many people to talk to about our addictions and obsessions. I used to meet plenty of people back when I was in Yahoo! Chat and playing PSO! I actually prefer meeting individuals online, because then when you meet them IRL it isn't as awkward. Honestly, I never instigated. All of my past experiences has caused me to be afraid to talk first, so if I say something first, I brought up a lot of courage to do it. I am trying to be better at it, because my shyness is sometimes annoying. Aye! ^_____^; Also, being a shy person myself, I don't want to talk to someone that doesn't really want to be talked to, you know? Everything and everyone is different. I am really not trying to instigate some hate war between age. Really, I am not! I just guess I resorted to age due to how I get treated IRL.
    Il y a 6 ans
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    R_Kasahara ( =₃=)*
    I'm 35 and visit Japanese bookstores and such whenever I can. Don't worry about being old :)

    I also find that it's easier to meet friends who are fellow fans online, a good number of which I end up meeting in real life (at PAX or whenever they're or I'm in the area). I've actually been considering starting a meetup club here at MFC so that a lot of us can get together IRL, but have been lazy about it >_>; (ETA: Hell, I'll go start one up right now!)
    Il y a 6 ans
    0pt
    I'm 25 and I don't know many anime fans either. There's a Japanese cultural club here which actually learns Japanese and their cultures (tea gathering, ikebana, bonsai, etc) but not otaku. There's an annual anime-con but it's on memorial weekend so most likely I'm out of town.

    However, there are 2 people at work I can talk to. Neither of them are as extreme as me in terms of anime/manga interest/knowledge though. Even so, people at work do not look down on me when I talk about anime stuff - usually I just tell them summaries - they think of it as cultural information - plus I also am knowledgeable about various cultures especially Asian - so my co-workers just label me as a Japan-crazy kid who has a lot of stories. As long as you try to match their wavelength =p

    I'm not particularly crazy about figures, but I'm getting some to decorate my office - just the nendos though cos I don't wanna freak out my co-workers with figmas.. It would be nice to actually be around other otakus - but I've lived my life so far without hanging around otakus yet I kept talking about otaku stuff to people and the only one that shakes their head at me are my parents :s

    And seems like a lot of people commented about age - yeah it's kind of a subjective issue - but if you stereotype, different countries actually has different demographics for different Japanese media interests (figures, anime, manga). Back in Indonesia, you would stay away from adults who like anime/manga because.. The largest demographic are kids. In US, it tends to be more teens and young adults. In Japan, I felt like the major demographic is even older, even though there are anime for kids?

    And if you haven't realized it from the comments below, the internet help, such as in forums like this~ You're not the only one feeling this way, and if you don't talk to others in the same situation, you'll feel alone :s

    And last but not least, the atmosphere of the difference between 12 and 17 year olds, 17 and 25 year olds, and 25 and 40 years old are big. 25 and 30? 40 and 60? Not so much :s

    EDIT: oh yeah last night I was trying to joke about how expensive the figures are with my friend that I could spend on something else - then he said it's not like everyone can understanding spending hundreds on a single meal, a watch, camera lenses, clothes, apparel like bags, jewelries, thousands for cars they never drive, household appliances they don't use, or coffee even - so I guess even I also prejudice stuff I can't appreciate..
    Il y a 6 ans
    0pt
    Im in my late 20's as well (turning 29 on September 1st) and I gotta admit that I dont know that many anime fans in person except my close group of friends (like 2-3 people) lol and 1-2 people at work.

    I would say that the best place to meet other anime fans is cosplay events because only people who are into anime attend those events and there are alot of people from the general area where you live. The people at cosplay events are usually pretty friendly and come up to you to take pictures with your costume and theirs. People at cosplay events tend to be in their teens or mid 20's too though, at least in the cosplay events that ive been to in Florida but its no big deal as long as you go to have fun, check out anime goods and meet new people with similar interest.

    It might just be that those people you tried to talk to were a bit rude by completely ignoring you, if someone says something to you its only common courtesy to at least acknowledge the person.
    Il y a 6 ans
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